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Universal Intimacy

Why Is There a Hookup Culture?

By Dennis Prager

It is well known that most college students engage at one time or another in what is known as a "hookup" -- an emotionless, commitment-less sexual encounter.

Yesterday, I interviewed Donna Freitas, author of "The End of Sex: How Hookup Culture is Leaving a Generation Unhappy, Sexually Unfulfilled, and Confused About Intimacy."

In our dialogue, we agreed that her book subtitle was accurate, but we disagreed as to the cause. Freitas, who holds a Ph.D. in religious studies, blamed it on peer pressure, the sex-drenched social media of young people and the ubiquity of pornography. I blamed three other culprits: feminism, careerism and secularism. 

I was in college and graduate school during the heyday of modern feminism. And the central message to women was clear as daylight: You are no different from men. Therefore, among other things, you can enjoy sex just like they do -- just for the fun of it and with many partners. The notion that nearly every woman yearns for something deeper when she has sexual intercourse with a man was dismissed as patriarchal propaganda. The culture might tell her to restrict sex to a man who loves her and might even marry her, but the liberated woman knows better: Sex without any emotional ties or possibility of future commitment can be "empowering."

Feminism taught -- and professors on the New York Times op-ed page continue to write -- that there are no significant natural differences between men and women. Therefore, it is not unique to male nature to want to have sex with many partners. Rather, a "Playboy culture" "pressures" men into having frequent, uncommitted sex. And, to the extent this is a part of male nature, it is equally true of women's natures.

Another feminist message to women was that just as a woman can have sex like a man, she can also find career as fulfilling as men do. Therefore, pursuing an "M-R-S" at college is just another residue of patriarchy. Women should be as interested in a career as men are. Any hint of the notion that women want, more than anything else, to marry and make a family is sexist, demeaning, and untrue.

One result is that instead of trying to find a potential husband, young women are under feminist pressure to show that they couldn't care less about forming an exclusive, let alone permanent, relationship with a man. And this provides another reason for her to engage in non-emotional, commitment-free sex.

The third reason for the hookup culture is the radical secularization of the college campus. The concept of the holy is dead at American campuses, and without the notion of the holy it is very difficult to make the case for minimizing, let alone avoiding, non-marital sex. Sex, which every great religion seeks to channel into marriage, has no such role in secular thinking. The (SET ITAL) only (END ITAL) issues for students to be aware of when it comes to sex are health and consent. Beyond those two issues, there is not a single reason not to have sex with many people.

That's why colleges -- secular temples that they are -- throughout America reinforce the centrality and importance of sex as a mechanical act. There are "sex weeks" at many of our institutions of higher learning that feature demonstrations of sex toys, S&M seminars, porn stars coming to speak, etc.

Feminist teaching about male-female sameness; feminist teaching that women will derive their greatest meaning from career, not from marriage and family; and the complete removal of religious values and teaching from the college campus are, indeed, "leaving a generation unhappy, sexually unfulfilled [certainly most of the women] and confused about intimacy."

But this is not how Dr. Freitas sees it.

As Esfehani Smith wrote in her review of the book for the Wall Street Journal: "In the book's conclusion, Ms. Freitas says that she wants young adults to have 'good sex,' a category that can include, she suggests, hooking up -- as long as students recognize that casual sex is 'just one option among many.' Yet this jars with the nearly 200 preceding pages on the corrosive effects of casual sex."

Kudos, then to Dr. Freitas for delineating the tragedy. But I suspect that it is her very Ph.D. that prevents her from understanding either the roots of this human tragedy or its solution. Both would involve the moral and intellectual rejection of the very institution that granted it to her

Read the entire column http://www.dennisprager.com/columns.aspx?g=278ef6fe-2535-4255-8e54-e9dee622334b&url=why-is-there-a-hookup-culture-n1582306

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Whistle Blowers Keep Doctors in Line?

WASHINGTON, DC . . . the whistleblowers and persons of conscience will hold the fifth annual gathering on Capitol Hill, focused on signature issues of Judicial Accountability, Medical Integrity and expanding education and awareness of whistleblower issues, particularly in light of consideration of the preventable **disasters that have beset the United States. Advocates from around the country to meet in the Nation's Capitol and encourage their lawmakers to pass the protection for whistleblowers.

As the Nation's budget crisis continues to grow, lawmakers must be encouraged to look towards the activities of corporate and federal whistleblowers in assuring proper spending.

Registration and details at
http://internationalwhistleblower.org/

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Scoop has been crucial to the public interest, and in exposing matters of critical interest to the nation. Now, all of us are having a National Meeting to press our agenda to Congress. OEN has consistently pursued the public interest and whistleblower rights. We have a once in a lifetime opportunity to make our voices heard, and to meet and make the public aware of the crisis in rights

We Need Every Single OEN reader and writer to attend. Please send this invitation everywhere. We need all interested citizens. Please examine:

http://internationalwhistleblower.org/

The IAW is non-political, and non-aligned. The IAW seeks to provide a forum for citizens of conscience to meet, network, and seek new relationships and mentoring in the struggle to bring integrity to healthcare.

Now is the time for all public minded and enlightened citizens to band together. The International Association of Whistleblower Caucus will be held in Washington, DC:

Included in the IAW Caucus are many signature panels and events:
1. A ceremony to Honor Absent Heroes; a "empty chair" panel will represent four outstanding whistleblowers that cannot attend the meeting because they are in prison or are deceased:
a)    Martin Salazar, former Dept. of Energy employee
b)    Bradley Birkenfeld, former UBS banker
c)    Mordechai Vanunu, former Israeli nuclear technician
d)    Karen Silkwood, Kerr-McGee technician (deceased)

Other absent heroes will also be honored in a roll call of those lost while serving the nation's interests.

2. Atlanta Whistleblowers will discuss the alarming problems in Georgia including the eruptions of scandals in schools, hospitals and courts. Dr. Helen Salisbury and her colleagues will ask: "Can the Patient Quality Care Project Bring Integrity back to Medicine?"

3. Medical Whistleblowers will report on need for improvements at the nation's for-profit hospital chains.

4. A special session will be provided by OpEdNew's own Rob Kall and Joan Brunwasser and Tapping the Power of Media "How can we use the power of story, and new internet media, to promote social justice?

More events can be seen on the IAW website. Whistleblowers from all walks of life are welcomed. Membership is being enlarged. The IAW will also host social events and booksignings. Every single person attending will have the opportunity to have their story recorded for U-tube.  This event is "of, by and for the whistleblower."

"Starting today, every agency and department should know that this administration stands on the side not of those who seek to withhold information, but those who seek to make it known."

We encourage all 264 organizations and corporations that signed the Whistleblower letter to join us! We are already bonded by a shared principle that "whistleblower protection is a foundation for any change in which the public can believe. It does not matter whether the issue is economic recovery, prescription drug safety, environmental protection, infrastructure spending, national health insurance, or foreign policy."

http://www.internationalwhistleblower.org/whistle-blower-news/

Medical Truth: Whistleblowers will restore integrity in medicine by bringing hospitals in line.

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The Tax, Spend, and Regulate (TSR) Party can’t manage city finances either

Detroit faces a takeover by an emergency manager. The move by Michigan's governor would take control of the state's largest city out of the hands of elected leaders. Detroit, with an annual deficit of $327 million, the state of Michigan is taking on one of the most difficult turnaround projects ever attempted: a rescue of a sprawling city with $14 billion in debt, a depleted tax base, a legacy of government corruption—and very little time left to avert financial collapse. The city is on pace to run out of cash by June and, in the eyes of the state, unfit to govern itself. Gov. Rick Snyder said the financial manager would bring Detroit new promise.

The governor's decision represents a turning point for a city that was once the industrial capital of America and an engine of its growth. Six decades ago, Detroit was a city of nearly two million people brimming with factory jobs that offered immigrants from the South and abroad a pathway into the American middle class. Today, it is a city of just over 700,000 residents, confronting widespread poverty, blight and diminished municipal services.

The manager will have sweeping power to set the financial direction of the city. The appointee will also have the ability to break municipal labor contracts starting later this month when a new state law takes effect. Elected leaders in Detroit could lose their jobs, but the emergency manager could also retain some of them by setting new salaries and modifying duties.

When President John F Kennedy lower tax rates in the 1960s and improved tax revenue in the process, we thought this would educated the TSR party that raising tax rates would be counterproductive. But it only lasted one term.

Some of us forgot that JFK also allowed government workers to unionize. This eliminated all thoughts of fair taxations and allows government unions to destroy our heritage with incessant irresponsible taxation and spending increases. This has now lasted for 50 years.

When Washington is shown to be unfit to govern, who would be able to be the manager of the United States of America and re-introduce fiscal responsibility?

To read more, see MATTHEW DOLAN, WSJ,

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